Wednesday
9:00 pm – called the doctor
11:00pm – admitted to the hospital

Thursday
1:00  am – text my good friend Julie who was also being admitted that day to have her baby
8:00 am – met with doctor, she told me…”You’re having your baby today”
2:07 pm – deliverd Cole David Hargrave

It was a fast, scary miracle, but we are full of peace waiting for our son to come home.

Part of his lung was not quite developed, so they had to put him on oxogen for about 24 hours.  He had to be feed with an IV, and his heart was being monitored.  All of this sounds (and it looked) very scary, but we had great doctors who always gave us hope and comfort.  So, believe it or not, Ryan and I have had a lot of peace.  Not to mention the vast amout of friends and family who were praying fervently for us.

So, as of now we wait.  Wait for our little guy to come home.  He is being treated for Jaundice (almost gone) and has lost some weight, and he hasn’t quite got the knack for eating.  But, all of that seems to be getting better every day.  So, I go to the hospital about every three hours and hold him if I can, talk to him and tell him about all the things we are going to do.

Thanks again for all the love, it has been amazing and we feel it.

Christy

Over the last few months I have had a really hard time as a parent.  Although my son is getting older which means he no longer uses a sippy cup, he goes to the bathroom in the middle of the night all by himself.  He now knows the days of the week, so when I say, “No, that’s not until Thursday.”  He knows what I mean.  So, the taking care of him is way easier.  The part that has been hard is raising him.  It went from taking care of him to teaching him how to be a little person.  A good person.  Honest, hardworking, friendly, caring.  All the things we as parents think are important.  The hard part is that it never ends.  I can’t just tell him to say thank you one time and forget it.  I have to tell him over and over and over.  Along with the million other “reminders” I share with him daily.  So it begins to be somewhat of a joy kill.  There is no reward, no goal reached, nothing.  Just day in and day out reminding my son how to behave.  Then, on top of that there is the whining, the complaining, the “it’s not fair”.  All of this was making me crazy.    Think about it, when you are upset with a big person, they usually tell you they are sorry.  You get an apology AND you see some sort of improvement.  That’s where the daily crying came.  I saw zero change in my son.  Depressing.

So, as I sit and feel this new little guy and think about doing it all over again, it gets me kinda scared.  Am I a good mom?  Should I be having children?  Am I going to have rebellious children.  And then, one day…out of nowhere, my son says to me,  “I love you mom, thanks for playing with me.”  And then I remembered the verse from Proverbs…”Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn form it.”  It hit me like a ton of bricks.  I have been trying to control him, not train him.  I wasn’t giving him a reason to obey.  I was just expecting him to.

So, my lesson was easy.  Relax, keep doing what your doing.  And, tell myself what my parents always used to tell me:  That, discipline means freedom.

I’ll let you know how he turns out in 20 years.

Spent tonight teaching Luke about records and why they are better than any CD. It was almost a right of passage watching him put the record on the turntable.

Christy and I use twitter fairly frequently during our lives and overall we really like it. It keeps us up to date with what friends are doing, what is going on and in some cases give us inspiration. About 3 weeks ago I started doing searches based on location, meaning that it pulls our whoever tweeted within 5 or 10 miles of me. Mostly what was returned was young high school  kids complaining about something or other… which is def not want I want to waste my life following!

But, the flip side is that I’ve picked up several people I follow that are fairly interesting and even had lunch with a guy that runs another design firm down here in Sugar Land. For the first time in a long time I feel like I’m beginning to break a few barriers, here in suburbia, when it comes to meeting people and finding people of similar interests (or even dissimilar interests).

Hoping to maybe keep meeting new folks and even put together a local meetup (or Tweetup for all the Geeks reading). So take some time and do some local searches for people tweeting around you!

P.S. if you are from Sugar Land be sure to follow @SLTownSquare as they seem to be the unofficial voice for our great city.

(Photo by friend and local Sugar Land photographer @mikehaskew)

Luke and I went over to hang with some friends this afternoon and I caught the two of them lounging on the pirate ship.

Alot has happened in the last 6 months and blogging hasn’t been a huge priority for us in the Hargrave household. But with summertime coming there is going to be alot to share so we’re going to try get back in the habit of sharing what all is going on.

In short… We went to steamboat for MusicFest, I’m now in the beardless part of the year, Christy is a redhead, Luke is 5, Crossbridge has moved into a building, it’s getting hot in Texas, we’re still traveling alot and have a river trip in our near future!

There… you’re all caught up. LOL